Couples Counseling & Marital Therapy

Are You Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner Or Your Relationship?

Do you struggle to communicate effectively with your partner? Is there a sense of distance or detachment between you lately? Have you noticed any of the following negative patterns within your relationship:

· Fighting and conflict?

· Disconnection or withdrawal?

· Lack of trust or intimacy?

Maybe you’re married and experiencing issues related to raising your children. Perhaps emotional connection has been replaced by simply going through the motions together, resulting in a loss of intimacy, communication, and connection. As a result, you may be thinking it’s time to see a couples therapist.

Communication Between You And Your Partner May Have Hit A Stalemate

Maybe you’ve noticed that you’re overly irritable with your partner—every little thing they do gets on your nerves, without you even really knowing why. Perhaps you feel lonely within your relationship, as if you’re not truly heard, understood, or loved. Every time you try to speak your mind and advocate for yourself, your words seem to get misinterpreted and you can’t get your point across. You may experience frequent arguments with each other, or else you may avoid confrontation entirely because of a lack of effective communication. Every time you try to confront your challenges, you end up arguing in circles. Perhaps a persistent state of anxiety or depression has impacted you due to the disconnection in your relationship and the lack of certainty over how best to resolve it.

But maybe you just need some outside support and perspective. Couples therapy with Engage Psychotherapy can help you begin the important work of understanding each other better and meeting each other’s needs. We meet couples exactly where they are in providing them with a nonjudgmental space to explore and improve their relationships.

All Couples Face Challenges Throughout Their Relationships

Unfortunately, life’s difficulties catch up to us all, which can take a toll on our closest relationships. Even the happiest, most loving couples experience issues in their relationship—they have simply learned how to effectively communicate and resolve their issues along the way. And when couples are unable to do so on their own, counseling can provide the needed external support.

For example, according to the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy (JMFT), couples therapy “positively impacts 70 percent of couples receiving treatment” (1). Plenty of couples, however, never seek help for their issues, when therapy could help them save their relationship.

Many Couples Face A Lack Of Support In Navigating Their Issues

We have an increasing number of ways in the modern world to avoid rather than solve issues of connection with one another. The negative impact of social media on marital relationships is well-documented, and the increasing social isolation and family breakdown in society leaves people with fewer skills and resources with which to work on themselves and their relationships. More couples have to deal with their challenges alone, since many families are very spread apart and tight-knit communities are hard to come by.

With couples therapy, though, you can repair old ruptures and face any new conflict moving forward with the confidence to resolve it together. We will work to replace the “you vs. me” dynamic with a collaborative “we” approach that helps align your needs and goals.

Couples Therapy Can Help You Rediscover Your Love For One Another

When you’ve found yourself in negative cycles in your relationship, it can be difficult to break them, much less create new patterns and behaviors. But couples counseling can help each of you better understand who you are and what you want—both as individuals and as a couple.

Our practice works with anyone who’s in a committed partnership, including couples who are married, engaged, or simply in long-term relationships. We are passionate about helping LGBTQ+ couples and our therapists have lots of experience working with trans couples in particular. We also specialize in providing support for polyamorous couples and those practicing ethical non-monogamy.

We strive to help people be their authentic selves, say what they want to say to the other person, and develop and deepen intimacy and trust. We do not dictate to people what their choices should be, but allow them to make the best choices for themselves.

We primarily teach communication skills and behavioral tools that help couples resolve conflict. We will first work to identify some of the core issues that are blocking greater connection and intimacy between you and your significant other. And together, we will identify what each person ultimately wants out of the relationship, and work toward bringing these desires into alignment.

Pick The Right Fit For You From A Diverse Set Of Approaches

All relationships are unique, and they often require a unique approach in order to address the specific issues they are facing. We have therapists who specialize in a wide variety of marriage counseling modalities, and we will find the counselor and approach that are the right fit for you.

For example, Gottman Method couples therapy can help couples open up a healthier dialogue so that they can break out of unhealthy communication patterns. In other cases, approaches as diverse as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), or Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) might work well for couples.

Therapy creates a safe space to understand each other’s pain, express needs without blame, and work toward reconnection. If both of you are committed to improving the relationship, it’s possible to restore your love and connection moving forward.

You May Still Have Some Questions About Couples Therapy…

We’ve tried therapy before and nothing changed—how will this be different?

We have a wide range of therapists available to help and we offer a free consultation for all the couples we see. We will determine what has and hasn’t worked for you in the past to ensure that you are matched with a couples therapist who is an ideal fit for both you and your partner. Our therapists draw from an eclectic range of approaches and we have lots of experience working with couples, so we are very confident that we can create a counseling plan that suits your needs, honors your values, and empowers you to meet your goals.

How long will therapy take to make a difference?

Although some forms of progress take time, couples therapy can actually create positive changes in your relationship right away. We focus on making sense of how you got to where you are and then creating experiences that restore the relationship and create growth and healing for all involved.

What if we can’t afford couples counseling?

We are registered with most insurance companies either as in-network providers or to bill and accept assignment out of network, allowing most of our clients to simply pay their share of the fee regardless if we are in- or out-of-network with their insurance plan. And oftentimes, the larger costs of not going to therapy can far outweigh the cost of therapy itself. After all, your relationship is one of the most important things in your life. Investing in it can ensure that you and your significant other have a strong foundation on which to build for years to come.

You Can Restore Your Love And Connection Together

If you are looking to strengthen your bond with your partner, couples therapy with Engage Psychotherapy can help you reconnect and repair your relationship.

To set up a complimentary, 15-minute phone consultation, call to text us at 845-328-0926 or utilize our contact page to get started.